Couple's Sex Guide
G-spot & The Female Orgasm
The G-Spot is one of life's mysteries. Scientists and Sexperts have been arguing over the existence of the G-spot for years, but most now agree that the G-spot does in fact exist and can lead to mind blowing orgasms. Many women believe that the G-spot is not real or it's so clouded in mystery that they're not sure where its located or even how to stimulate it.
What is the G-spot?
The G-spot, also called the Gräfenberg spot (after German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg), is characterized as an erogenous area of the vagina that, when stimulated, may lead to strong sexual arousal, powerful orgasms and potential female ejaculation. It is typically reported to be located 2–3 inches up the front vaginal wall between the vaginal opening and the urethra and is a sensitive area that may be part of the female prostate.
What is so amazing about the G-spot?
The G-spot orgasm is much more unique than that of a clitoral or internal orgasm. This is due to the fact that the prostate has a different nerve than the clitoris does making the sensation of the orgasm much different. Most women agree that a G-spot orgasm is deep and long lasting. What's not to like about that?
Does every woman have a G-spot?
There is still much speculation about this. Many Sexperts say, "Yes, the G-spot does exist...but each woman is different." For some woman, a G-spot orgasm gives mind blowing orgasms while other woman may feel nothing. Just like some woman are able to have an orgasm through penetration only and some woman need the assistance of clitoral stimulation.
How do I find my G-spot?
If your feeling brave there is nothing wrong with doing a little exploring on your own with a simple tool, your fingers! If you lay on your back and insert your fingers facing towards the ceiling, it makes finding the G-spot much easier. About 2-3 inches in the vagina there is a rough knobby patch of tissue, the texture will feel much different than the smooth skin around it. Now a trick I have found very useful among many women is that it is much easier to find the G-spot after you have already had an orgasm. If you have tried to find the g-spot with your fingers and don't feel that rough patch of skin then try to have an orgasm. After you have had an orgasm try again, post orgasm actually makes the vaginal muscles loosen up and the G-spot more accessible.
What if I don't feel anything?
If you still feel nothing, don't worry. You are not abnormal if you don't get turned on by having the G-spot touched. It's very similar to some women having extremely sensitive nipples while others do not. Try not to focus on the parts of the body you don't feel stimulation but rather on the parts that you do.
Other ways to stimulate the G-spot!
Going solo can always be fun, but there other fun ways to stimulate the G-spot! Just like anything else, there is always a learning curve to something new. Some men know how to hit the G-spot but if he doesn't, now that you know where it is, you can guide him. Sometimes different positions allow for easier access to the G-spot. For example, try putting a pillow under your back side; it will elevate your back slightly and allow him a better angle to find your sweet spot. You can also try "doggy style" on your hands and knees which allows for better penetration during sex, so you can imagine it does the same for G-spot stimulation. Have your partner insert his pointer and middle finger in and crook his fingers upward and start moving his fingers in a "come hither" motion. A lot of women might not feel a lot of pleasure if the G-spot is just simply being stroked, sometimes in order to arouse the G-spot you have to more vigorously stroke it. The best way to describe how you know when your G-spot is being stimulated is if you feel like you might have to urinate, but don't worry its a natural feeling when stimulating this area.
Toys are a favorite among many people for G-spot play. There are tons of different types of G-spot toys out there. Here are some of our favorites.
The whole Svakom line is beautiful, but this one in general takes the cake. The Amy is small in size, but don't let that fool you. The ergonomic shape of this vibrator is perfect for fitting the natural contours of the vagina, and the flat surface provides direct G-spot stimulation. The Amy vibrator is made from 100% pure silicone, is waterproof and rechargeable! What more could you ask for?
We Vibe is notably one of the most innovative toy companies on the market, always coming out with toys that wow! The We Vibe Rave is no exception. The Rave has a very different type of vibration from other vibrators, it has a very deep vibration, more of a rumble then a rattle. Curved perfectly for easy handling and direct g-spot stimulation. Press down gently on the handle when inserted to add the perfect amount of pressure. The We Vibe Rave is also APP compatible. Download the free We Connect app on your smartphone to get more Rave features. As if that were not enough you can also choose between ten preset vibration patterns or create your own with the We Connect app. The Rave comes with a year warranty, is rechargeable and made of medical grade silicone. What are you waiting for?
I guess the only question left to ask here is,"To G-spot or not to G-spot?"
When people think of sexual enhancement they usually think of male enhancement pills, but both men and women have more choices that go beyond pill form. For men, there are pills, sprays, and creams for desensitizing, enhancing size, longevity, and stamina. For women there are creams, sprays, and oils that tingle, get warm or cold and enhance sensation of the clitoris, G-spot, or nipples. We've complied a list of our most popular male and female enhancements and why we believe them to be the best.
Male enhancements are most commonly in pill form, a sort of "herbal Viagra", but they also come in a cream and spray form. These products are usually used to last longer and increase size and stamina. We do not recommend these pills if you suffer from heart problems or are on a blood thinner. Desensitizing sprays help with premature ejaculation, are usually applied some time before intercourse and are not generally intended to use if oral will be performed. However, there are creams for men that will heighten sensation and are flavored.
One More Knight is an herbal supplement for men to help increase stamina, size, and time. Take one capsule 20 minutes before sex to help energy, libido and sexual performance!
Prolonging / Desensitizing
Stud100 is designed to help men delay ejaculation and prolong the pleasures of sex, it has a fast acting Lidocaine base that is safe and easy to use.
Kamasutra Pleasure Balm® Sensations is a kissable, water-based body gel for romantic play. Formulated to provide a refreshing tingling sensation on the skin. Not a flavored lubricant, Pleasure Balm® is a foreplay gel designed to create sensation and awaken all your pleasure.
Add length and girth with a penis extender. Penis extenders are sleeves that slip over your member and instantly add inches and thickness. There are many variations; some add girth and length, some with ribs and textures, and some with bullet vibrators attached.
Female enhancements usually work by making the nipples, clitoris or the G-spot extra sensitive. These products come in a few forms, but all offer sensations like buzzing, tingling, cooling, warming, or a combination. There are also sexual enhancement pills, serums to lift libido, vaginal tightening creams, and Kegel balls to help strengthen your pelvic muscles.
JO Volt 9v is an all natural clitoral serum with a blend of proprietary arousal botanicals that delivers an electric tingling sensation to take satisfaction to a whole new level. JO Volt is a safe, all-natural clitoral enhancement gel that tingles on contact to increase sensation and enhance satisfaction. The safe all natural formula is pH balanced and free of hormones, parabens, and L-arginine. For more intensity try JO Volt 12v.
JO Warm and Buzzy is a dual acting topical stimulant. This water-based cream provides a thrilling combination of warming AND buzzing sensations. Apply a little during foreplay, toy play or solo-play for heightened pleasure. A little goes a long way.
ON Ice for Her is our best selling cooling clitoral stimulation oil. ON Ice uses a proprietary blend of essential oils and herbal extracts for a safe and natural cooling and buzzing effect on women. It naturally stimulates the clitoris to boost arousal for optimal pleasure. It also helps with the release of natural lubrication from the vaginal walls. Just 1-2 drops can make all the difference.
Intimates Organics' Discover G-Spot Gel contains a blend of certified organic extracts, Japanese peppermint oil blended with L-Arginine. This unique formula increases the size and the sensitivity of the G-Spot making it easy to find.
Feel brand new with China Shrink Cream! Simply apply the cream around the vaginal area, and in five minutes the muscle-tightening agent in the cream will not only tighten your vagina for a more intense feeling during intercourse for both you and your partner, but will also increase your overall sensitivity for new levels of amazing stimulation!
Perk up and experience stimulating new sensations with JO Nipple Plumper. This natural cream uses a dual-action formula to immediately heighten sensitivity of nipples during intimate play and over time enhances aesthetic appearance with consistent use.
P-spot & The Male Orgasm
There has been lots of talk about the Woman’s G-spot – where it is, how to find it, and how to turn a woman into putty by using it. However there hasn’t been that much discussion on the male g-spot, and we have a sneaky suspicion that many of you may not even know you have one. The male g-spot, or "p-spot", is the name given to a males prostate – and lucky for you it is easier to find that a woman’s g-spot. We realize that for some of you the idea of exploring this area may be taboo, but if you keep an open mind while reading this, it may just provide you one of the best orgasm’s you have ever had!
Where is the P-spot?
The male G-spot isn’t that difficult to find, but it does require a little patience. Lying on your back and with your legs elevated is generally considered to be the most comfortable position. If you’re still having difficulty reaching the perineum from this position, you can lift your backside further by sliding a pillow or two under your bum.
Once you’ve made yourself as comfortable as possible, start by gently massaging the area surrounding your anus. Most men enjoy having their perineum stimulated, and that can certainly be incorporated into this process. Use the soft pad of your index finger while exploring, and be gentle. As you relax further, lube your finger up and let it gently brush across the surface of your anus. Repeat this move several times, each time increasing the pressure slightly. When you’re comfortable enough to begin probing, you should keep things slow and gentle, taking care to relax your sphincter during the process. Once you’ve come in contact with the male G-spot, you’ll recognize it as a small, chestnut-sized bump situated approximately two inches inward.
How to Stimulate
Remember that comfort is important – have a nice hot shower first – not only will you feel better clean, it also should help you to relax! If you’d like to take that one step further, try using an enema.
Once you’re ready for p spot stimulation, there are a number of methods you can use, if you are a first timer – keep things simple; a finger will be sufficient for beginners. Regardless, you’ll want a good supply of lubrication on hand, and you’ll want the type specifically created for anal play. We recommend Pjur Original Silicone Glide.
It will take some experimentation to discover what works best for you in terms of stimulation. As you prepare to stimulate your P-spot, keep in mind that techniques vary greatly. Some men enjoy gentle thrusting movements, and some prefer intense, constant pressure on the prostate itself. Change it up a little, and keep experimenting until you find what works for you. The key is to give your body the chance to react and respond; take your time, the orgasm is worth it! It’s also important to note that you may not find any of these methods pleasurable during the first exploration, and that’s perfectly normal; you can always try again in the future.
Remember, enjoying anal stimulation doesn’t mean that you're gay; it can give you great orgasms!
What else should I know?
We’ve already mentioned this one, but you shouldn’t limit this method to solo exploration. Believe it or not, many women enjoy performing this type of stimulation in the bedroom, particularly when the resulting orgasms for their partner can be so powerful. If you’d like to try something different, while she stimulates your prostate, have her give you a blow job.
Use P Spot Sex Toys
If you’d like to combine sex and prostate stimulation, try a classic butt plug which are one of the simplest options available on the market. Butt plugs come in a variety of shapes and sizes, its recommended to start small. You could also try a toy specifically designed for Prostrate Massage.
As with all sexual acts, remember lubricant, lubricant and more lubricant! There are many different types of lubes on the market. Usually, with anything anal, we suggest using a silicone lubricant or something designed specifically for anal desensitizing like Anal Eaze. If you do decide to use a toy and it is made of silicone, we suggest staying away from silicone lubricant as it can deteriorate the material of the toy. Try Pjur Back Door Water Based glide instead of the original Pjur Back Door Silicone glide.
We know that a number of you may not be immediately comfortable with this type of exploration – but just remember that it is perfectly acceptable and in no way strange! We see more and more men venturing into prostate play that find it amazing, and state that it leads to earth shattering orgasms! Plus, regular emptying of the prostate prevents prostate cancer. We encourage you to give it a try!
We-Vibe 4 Plus
This horseshoe shaped couples' vibrator is the latest version of the We-Vibe (a product we absolutely love.) This redesign basically ups the intensity and control, while featuring a much sleeker fit. The We-Vibe is worn by her, but you get to enjoy the benefits too, as it stimulates her G-spot and clit. There are now three vibration modes and an app, We-Connect, that you can customize vibrations and patterns, even if you’re in different countries!
EVA by Dame
Using a toy during sex can be distracting or even counterproductive. With Eva, you’re free to focus on intimacy. For most, Eva provides clitoral stimulations while staying in place and out of the way of penetrative sex. Even in adventurous positions, Eva only needs the help of a single finger to stay secure. Eva is made of medical grade silicone, rechargeable, waterproof, and has 3 powerful speeds. No hands, no hassle.
Jimmy Jane Hello Touch
The great thing about finger vibrators is that it’s basically just making your hands that much more stimulating. The sex toy isn’t dictating what you and your partner do, but just bettering the things you're already doing together. The Hello Touch is a two-finger vibrator with multifunctional settings. It’s waterproof and the power pack is worn on your wrist so it isn’t in the way. Yes, you may feel slightly alien wearing this super-tech fingers, but your partner will be really glad you did.
OhMiBod Blue Motion
Discreet yet anything but boring couples toys, the Ohmibod Blue Motion vibe is your answer to racy fun in public or private. The lacy panties are designed to hold Blue Motion in the lining, while a partner controls the remote from up to 26 feet away. The vibrator and has 4 integrated manual mode patterns, but OhMiBod Remote App offers more patterns, touch control, motion control, recording features, and can be controlled via wifi.
Heartfelt Warming Massager
This simple heat pack shaped like a heart can be warmed up in boiling water and lasts for 30 minutes of heat. The perfect sensual end or beginning of a session. Massages are a perfect way to start.
Fetish Fantasy’s Leather Bondage Kit
Yeah, we know that ties and blindfolds are all the rage right now because of that faux-BDSM story 50 Shades of Grey, (that movie is not an accurate depiction of BDSM behavior, please remember), however we don’t need a fad to promote a little mystery in the bedroom. Blocking one of her senses means you have to make up for it in other areas and can be great play. Take turns, be safe and have fun.
Imagine Candy Land but instead of candy it’s oral sex, dirty talk and all kinds of creative foreplay. This game can be played between you and your girl (or in a group for those of you who get down with that kind of thing). It’s pretty self-explanatory and you really can not go wrong. Crack a bottle of wine, open your mind, grab some toys and let the games begin.