Believe it or not this is one of the most common questions we get asked. How do I know if I've had an orgasm? It is a question asked by women young and old and 100% valid. You should know that there is no rule book on sex, there is no right way or wrong way (for the most part) and we typically get our answers from experience.
I typically will have a woman tell me, It felt good but how do I know if it was an orgasm. An orgasm is a climax, a release, a peak, a build up and then a coming down. If you experienced a build up of sexual pleasure and then it was released, or you peaked thats typically a good sign that your in the Orgasm arena. Usually once you have hit this peak you will feel a release of tension, sated or exhausted while other women will continue to feel desire and continue and might be able to achieve multiple orgasms.
Tune into your body and what its telling you. For example, if you are stimulating the clitoris, the clitoris usually becomes very sensitive to the touch after an orgasm. Other sensations can be a warm tingling sensation, fullness, heaviness or usually for the clitoris it can feel a bit engorged after having an orgasm. If you are having a vaginal (internal) orgasm it will likely follow by contractions of the muscles in the pelvic floor, or muscle contractions in the stomach. Some women will also experience an urge similar to the feeling of needing to empty your bladder when being close to or having an orgasm. You can feel these contractions or pulses quickly or slowly, either way enjoy the sensation!
There is nothing wrong with you!
A lot of women will unfortunately try to compare their experience with a friend and think that because their experience didn't match up with another experience then they must be doing it wrong, or that something is wrong with them. We highly recommend trying masturbation either with your hand or a toy, try massaging the clitoris first. Between 70%-75% of women cannot have a vaginal orgasm from penetration and spend most of their lives having intercourse with no fireworks and rockets red glare at the end so they assume "I must not be able to have an orgasm" when actually you could very well fall under the wide umbrella of women who simply cannot climax via penetration and would benefit from clitoral stimulation during sex to achieve that explosive moment! Don't be discouraged, keep it fun, keep trying and remember that your not alone!
