Buying Your First Sex Toy- Ladies First

Buying Your First Sex Toy- Ladies First

Take your Time and ask Questions

Buying your first sex toy can be intimidating to say the least. You don't know what you like and everything looks so alien to someone who never has shopped for a pleasure toy. If you go into an adult store? Don't be afraid to ask questions. Most Health and Wellness style adult retail stores have staff that are trained to handle first time customers. It is much more common than you might think. Only 47% of women in the U.S. own a vibrator. Which we find a very low number considering how self pleasure is so healthy. Also with sex toys becoming more and more geared towards couples play. It a great way to connect as a couple. Try sharing a toy together.

Are you Sensitive To Certain Materials

There is a wide array of materials to choose from in the adult sex toy world. Most of them are completely female body friendly. Although if you are extra sensitive, toys made out of Jelly and some of the rubber material toys may still cause irritation. For this reason most adult retail companies have started to go with more and more silicone. It's a body safe material and very rarely causes irritation. Plastic, glass and natural stone are also great choices but  they don't always include vibration due to material restrictions and their rigidity.

Do you want a toy for Internal Play

Some prefer the feel or pressure of a toy inside them. This may come in many shapes and forms. A popular shape is something with a G Spot curl. These toys use either pressure, vibration and in some cases they use a fluttering motion to stimulate the G Spot. Another option is a straight forward dildo or a toy with vibration. We have found most women enjoy the vibration but some may also be too sensitive to handle vibration. We have some alternatives to vibration which we will discuss more later. When it comes to vibration on a insertable toy, we suggest deep heavy vibrations similar to Fun Factory or The Satisfyer Vibes. These have great silicone material and come in a great variety of sizes, Also comes in great beginner sizes.

Maybe You Only Want Clitoral Stimulation

Only 30% of women can have an orgasm without some type of clitoral stimulation, so naturally if you are a beginner and your looking for a toy that isn't too intimidating, then we do suggest the small clitoral toys as a great starting point. So first of all you need to figure out if you like pressure or more of a flickering toy. The best way to figure this out is what kind of oral do you like, or even how you touch yourself. If you like pressure with the mouth or hand, then a wand type or a firmer bullet may be what you need. Wands are basically back massagers but are fantastic clitoral toys. Their depth of vibration will reach all the nerve endings of the clit. The bullets are small and a little bit buzzy. Faster vibration. More gears towards quicker orgasms due to how fast they work.

Suction Toys and Rabbit Style Sex Toys

To be honest, these are undoubtedly some of the finest types of sex toys found anywhere. Rabbits can sometimes be a lot going on for a beginner. Between a separate Clitoral stimulation plus internal pressure, vibration and movement with the insertable part of the toy. That being said, that’s also why they are so great. You get the best of both worlds.Usually they are multi button controls and to a true newbie. That could be confusing when using a toy for the first time. Now suction toys are great for beginners and experienced toy buyers. These air wave technology toys, especially when you like the feel of someone sucking on the clitoris. The only reason for a beginner not to purchase is the price. Suction toys can be a little expensive for a first time user. There is a Satisfyer One Night Stand. This is a 30 minutes use but is perfect to try the technology without committing to the higher cost version. 



Yes buying a vibrator for the first time can be intimidating but knowing what you might like will help in your decision. Remember it's about your sexual pleasure. Use what turns you on via oral or with your hands, use this knowledge when talking to a sales consultant to help them steer you in the right direction. With so many choices in toys, you may still need try a couple of toys until you get it right. relax and enjoy your new world of sexual pleasure. We hope you have enjoyed our Blog.




Written by Tim Sizemore

Owner, Operator and Sex Educator at Intimates Boutique

Have been owner of Intimates Boutique for 20 years. I am certified in sexual education and sex toy expert. Sharing my knowledge is one of my biggest passions. Hope you enjoy the information.



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