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Strap-On, Strap-Off: A Guide to Harnesses!

Strap-On, Strap-Off: A Guide to Harnesses!

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One of the best things about sex toys is that there is always something for everyone. Today we're going to chat a little about harnesses and the multitude of ways it can be incorporated into play time! If you've ever seen a harness being used, it's usually by a person who doesn't have those parts naturally - or lets just say it, a girl. But harness play isn't just for girls! Many men, with or without erectile dysfunction, enjoy using hollow attachments and a harness to enhance their play and satisfy their partner with a toy that fits their needs! There are harnesses that come with 2 holes and an extra attachment, for double penetration, and even extender sleeves to enhance the length and girth. Sometimes, though, the harness set-up can be a little tricky or even in the way. That's why things like the FeelDoe were invented, a harness-less extension with an insertable and vibrating portion for the wearer. While there are a valley of different options and choices, today we are going to break down the beginner harnesses and accessories and, eventually get all the way over to toys for the more advanced and experienced harness user.

Somewhere to Start!

Luckily, the sex toy industry understands that not everyone can take on a super, mighty, dildo for their first time, so toy creators have put together sweet beginner sets for certain types of toys - especially anal play toys! Certain harness sets like the Bend-Over Beginner Harness Kit by Tantus give you almost everything you need to get started. This kit comes with a comfortable velvet harness, a bullet vibrator for the wearer, 2 different sized attachments and an extra O-ring for different attachments and customization. Other package sets like the Sex & Mischief Harness and Dildo and the Fetish Fantasy Heart Strap-on are really similar in the accessories they include, the only difference is style! 

 

 

Now We're Getting Somewhere...

If you've been a fan of harnesses for a while, maybe it's time to upgrade your goody bag! A really easy way to bring more sensations to harness play is to experiment with vibrations. Vibrating cock rings, vibrating attachments and harnesses with bullet pockets are awesome toys to look at. The vibrating sensation brings a whole new level of pleasure to bed, as well as gives you and your playmates more variety for playtime! There are also harnesses with two holes, one for an attachment and one for the male appendage for advanced double penetration fun! Add a vibrating cock ring to the situation for some extra sensations and you're in for a fun time! There are also neat and different attachments like The Accommodator, which is made to be worn on the face as an insertable during facial oral play. This is a really neat toy to try for woman who love 'sitting on their partners face', or hovering above the face as their partner preforms oral.

Bigger, Better, Awesomer!

For the more advanced user, your question through this whole article is probably, "Okay but what else? What's next if I have all of these things?" Let's talk about the FeelDoe again. A harness-less extension made for maximum comfort and mobility, completely unique to different attachments you can get for a harness. The bulbous end is inserted into the wearer, and the bullet holder at the bottom of the base gives a nice solid vibration throughout the whole apparatus, even up the the tip of the shaft! This toy eliminates any and all qualms couples might have about the discomfort of straps of certain harnesses, or the mobility hurdles using a harness possesses. If this kind of a model doesn't strike you too much as an advanced user, than what you're looking for is probably a stronger, better, more comfortable and high quality harness. The better harnesses are designed to hold larger attachments without them being too heavy and falling off/out, and are usually made to be more form fitting and comfortable to wear. Models like The Deuce by SpareParts are some of the best harnesses around town. The Theo as its single-holed sister, the Deuce is double holed for double penetration fun! They both are designed to be able to hold greater weights, as well as secure the right parts of the harness for the most realistic feel and function.

As for different and interesting attachments, there are some really neat toys to fit the bill. The Fun Factory Bouncer is one that's very different from typical non-vibrating toys. It has ball bearings on the inside that bounce against each other, then creating a shaking motion when thrusting. This is a really unique feeling for couples because the bearings can really help with momentum. Another really great attachment is the King Cock vibrating dildo. This model comes with a detachable base, so it can be used with a harness! On top of that, the vibrations are a really nice additive to your playtime. The adjusting wheel at the bottom allows you to find your perfect speed, and the detachable suction base makes it easy to take right off your harness set up.

 The Best Fit

The best way to start out using a harness is to ask questions. Ask yourself and your partner, "What are we looking for in this experience? What works for us?" And, of course, we at the Boutique are open to questions of all kinds to help you figure out the best products for you. There are a rainbow array of different styles, comfort fits, functions and attachments that come with a harness, so with the questions you ask, we can help steer you in the right direction to pick out the best toys for you and your partner! Even if you're newer to harness play, or you've never tried it before, there are a lot of different toys and ways to play with them so you can incorporate it into your play time! Maybe this is your excuse to try something new.