Welcome to our store Learn more

New collections added! Learn more

End of Winter Sale - 20% Off Entire Site

How to Give Her Better Oral Orgasms

How to Give Her Better Oral Orgasms

Tim Sizemore |

The Vagina and How it Works

Feel-good areas: erogenous zones

Erogenous zones are parts of the body that respond to stimulation. this can be any area that feels good when touched by you ar your partner

One of the most erogenous parts of the female body is the clitoris because all of the nerve endings in the clitoris. The clitoris has almost 8000 nerve ending.

The clitoris is part of the vulva, the name for the external parts of female genitalia. The vagina is the tube connecting the vulva and the cervix. 

Here is a diagram of a vulva:


Stimulation of the clitoris can be applied directly, internally (through the vagina), and/or through stimulation of the other parts of the vulva. 

Clitoral stimulastion is the way that 70% of women out in the world have orgasms.

Where is the clitoris? Let's look at the anatomy.

The clitoris is not just the part of your vulva that feels like a tiny button.

The clitoris is composed of multiple parts:

  • the glans
  • the clitoral body
  • the paired crura and vestibular bulbs.

External parts of the clitoris

The glans clitoris is the name of the external part of the clitoris—the part that most people call the “clitoris.”

It is about the size of a pea, and is located above the urethra. Because the glans is the most highly innervated area of the clitoris, it’s extremely sensitive to touch (5,6).

Unlike the rest of the clitoris, the glans does not swell or grow during the sexual response, as it does not contain erectile (expandable) tissue 

Just above or on top of the glans is the clitoral hood, which is formed by the two sides of the connecting labia minora. Clitoral hoods can vary in size and degree of coverage from person to person.

Internal parts of the clitoris

The majority of the clitoris is not typically visible.

Connected to the glans clitoris is the body of the clitoris. The clitoral body projects upwards into your pelvis, and attaches via ligaments to your pubic bone.

From the body (located in front of the urethra), the clitoris splits in half to form the paired crura (these are like the “legs” of the clitoris), and vestibular bulbs. These bulbs extend through and behind the labia, passing by the urethra, vaginal canal, and towards the anus.

The bulbs and crura contain erectile tissue that swells with blood during female sexual arousal. By swelling on either side of the vaginal canal, they increase lubrication in the vagina, while increasing sexual stimulation and sensation. This expansion of clitoral tissue can also cause pressure to be applied to the anterior of the vaginal canal.



The Art of Cunnilingus

What is cunnilingus you ask, It is the Latin word for giving oral to a female. Yes there is an art to performing oral on a female. keep in mind that all women are different and what may work great on one person may not reap the same rewards if you do the same to another individual. To best be prepared for this you need to know all the tricks of the trade per say. We will start by saying the most important part of oral is to not jump on the clitoris right away. Let the vulva warm up a little. Start with lighter flicking motion on the outer and inner labias. this will help wake up the nerve ending around the clitoris so when it is time for clitoral playtime? She will be ready. We have found that some women like a slower approach with as much teasing as possible. At least until she is ready. Then go ahead and don't hold back. Watch how she reacts to what you are doing. that is the best way to understand if your doing a great job. Also talk to your partner and ask her what she likes. Good communication and good basic skills will help you perfect at giving oral pleasure. We don't believe techniques like the alphabet or the sewing machine so much. just let yourself go and enjoy her lovely lady bits. hard to enjoy if your trying to spell. Just sayin.

Best Oral Sex Positions

Oral sex also results in extra wetness, and then there's the physical comfort of getting rather than giving. No wonder so many women love it—and why their partners love doing it. “Oral sex involves both indirect and direct clitoral stimulation,” says psychologist Megan Fleming, PhD, a sex therapist and marriage counselor in New York City.

While you might have a go-to position for enjoying oral, trying new poses can trigger more intense sensations and make you feel even sexier and more empowered. Here, Fleming suggests five to add to your bedroom rotation.

Reclining back on the bed

Lying on your back while your partner's head is between your legs is 100% about your pleasure; you can close your eyes and conjure up a fantasy, as well as hold your partner's head to feel more connected (or to steer him exactly where you want his mouth to go).

However, if you’re self-conscious about receiving and feel super exposed, Fleming suggests putting on a blindfold (or a sleep mask) when your partner goes down. “One, it helps you lose yourself more in the experience. Two, when you cut off your sense of sight, it heightens your other senses,” says Fleming. You may find that it feels even more intense, especially as your self-awareness slips away and you get lost in the moment.

Propped up by a pillow

“Good sex and oral sex are all about the angles,” says Fleming. “Certain positions give you more direct clitoral stimulation." Fleming recommends this simple way to switch up the angle and sensation: putting a pillow under your butt. That tilts your pelvis, giving your partner more access to your vulva, clitoris, and vagina. It may even be more comfortable for him too, so he can go on for as long as you want him to.

On all fours

Get into the doggy-style position and hover a few inches above your partner’s face, your legs either spread or tight together. “This allows you to move closer or further away and shift the sense of pressure you may feel from their tongue,” says Fleming. Essentially, you’re more in control. Plus, “it’s a great inner thigh workout, too,” she adds.

This one requires some technique, but the payoff is worth it, and it's thrilling to be able to pleasure your partner while he's pleasing you, says Fleming. The 69 position can be done in several different ways; the trick is to find a specific pose that works for you—such as 69 when you're both on your sides holding each other's legs, or 69 with one partner on top of the other.

Standing against a wall

Standing with your back pressed up against a wall (or standing and gripping a chair for support) can make you feel dominant and empowered, as your partner squats or rests on his knees below you. It can take time to get comfortable with this position, but it'll feel incredible as your partner grips your hips and butt for leverage and is surrounded by the sexiest parts of your body.



Should you Add Fingers to Oral

Some women love fingers and some women prefer less use of hands. First of all gentlemen, make sure your hands are clean and your nails are properly maintained. No sharp edges, ouch. Just finding ways to use your hands during oral play is fun and can add more to the the act of oral. We have found that adding a finger or two as she nears orgasm is an almost guaranteed way to give her bigger orgasms. Make sure she is amply wet and or you lubricate the fingers in some way. when inserted focus more to top of the vaginal wall. in a come hither motion start working your way to the top of the vaginal wall. you should be near the g spot by now. it will fell like a rough patch to the tip of the finger. When she is properly aroused the G Spot should push out a little further, making it easy to rub with the tip of your finger. Combining this with oral should help you achieve something called a blended orgasm. Orgasms are very different depending on if they are internal or external orgasms. Or have both at the same time is a blended orgasm. Internal orgasm have a tendency to a bigger orgasm than clitoral. that does vary from female to female as well. A more advance move is to engage butt play too. So using your hand is a great way to enhance oral play.


Maybe a G Spot Toy

Another way to make oral better is to add a g spot toy to play time. We suggest a slim shafted toy so it doesn't get in way of the oral play. This type of toy is a great way to get vibration on the g spot while performing oral. We would like to suggest the Vedo Gee Slim or Curve novelties Blair g spot toy. Any toy that doesnt get in the way and has a slight curl will work for this act.



Learning oral techniques take time and practice. good communication between partners is the best way to find out what works and doesn't work. Remember practice makes perfect. Alway start out with no hands or toys. Get to know her clit first. What she likes, what gets her turned on but doesn't lead to orgasm. then figure out when to go in for the clit. perfect timing will lead to big, rewarding orgasms that will leave her wanting you every time.





Written by Tim Sizemore

Owner, Operator and Sex Educator at Intimates Boutique

Have been owner of Intimates Boutique for 20 years. I am certified in sexual education and sex toy expert. Sharing my knowledge is one of my biggest passions. Hope you enjoy the information.