Sometimes navigating sex as a bigger person is difficult. Where does my tummy fit into all of this?? How long can you hold my legs up for? How long can I be on top for? Am I hurting my partner? Does my partner find me attractive? So many questions run through my head during sex that sometimes it becomes overwhelming. As a plus size person, I'm still trying to figure it out.

First things first, if you are having sex with another person, communication is always key. Have some questions or expectations? Talk about it with your partner before jumping right into it. Do you already know what position rockets you to the moon? Tell them about it.

Next, learning the positions that you are most comfortable in or the positions that really get you going are important! Before doing anything with a partner, experiment with yourself. How, you ask? Try straddling a pillow with or without a dildo on it. Try using a toy in a solo doggie style. See anything that may be fun or exciting, try it. Self exploration and masturbation is the best way to learn how you like to be pleased.

What are some of the best positions to be in?

The Pretzel:

Yes, I know. Sounds a little complicated but it is worth it! One person lays mostly one their side while the other person is straddling one leg. Leaves all the bits open for fun! I find this position to be low impact on both partners!

Doggy Style:

One of the most basic just so happens to be one of the best! This can be down with or without support coming from normal pillows or a position pillow (like a liberator).

Now that I mention using pillows or positioning aids, Liberators are probably some of the best money I have spent on anything to enhance my sex life. You may ask yourself why would you spend that much money on a pillow when you can get one at Target. Liberator position pillows are made out of super high density memory foam, covered in a waterproof lining, and topped off with a soft, easily removable velvish cover. The memory foam is dense enough to hold my weight but isn't hard and doesn't hurt my body. Truly does help take pressure off my knees, arms, and back. Plus it helps enhance the pleasure of the person on top of it.

The Hipster is my Liberator of choice. It is a bit taller than the others and has a dip in the middle which holds my midsection better than any cheap pillow can

All in all, just have fun. I of all people who how hard it is to get out of your head sometimes, but once you are able to turn off some of those thoughts, it will set you free.