To all my Girls, Women, and Vulva owners, this blog is for you! Never been in an Adult Shop before, don't know what you could possibly need, zero idea what is a must-have? Well, we have you covered. Over the last ten years, I have compiled a list of things all of us women should have, and if you don't, you should, at the very least, try.
Walking into an Adult Boutique, let us face it; it can be extremely daunting. Like Aerial (The Little Mermaid), we have gadgets and gizmos aplenty. But what do you "NEED?" Certainly not a dinglehopper. You do not have to be a toy expert by any means. But there are definitely things every girly out there with an open mind should try. Let's start small with something I consider to be a necessity.
I try not to be too biased, but when it comes to this specific lubricant, not only do I love it, but it is something that I believe to be a need in and out of the bedroom. I know, I know, you may not think that you "Need" lubricant. I hear it all the time "I'm not dry, therefor I don't need lube." Think again. While yes, lubricant adds moisture for when things get dry, and you are trying to avoid the uncomfortable friction that comes with skin-on-skin contact, that is not all this specific lubricant helps with. Sliquid Satin is a Glycerin, Paraben, and DEA-free lube with other benefits. Not only is Sliquid Satin my best-selling water-based lubricant, but it is also a vaginal moisturizer. Yes, moisturizer, just like a moisturizer for your face, Sliquid Satin helps us Vulva owners who struggle to produce enough of our own vaginal moisture. You can apply Sliquid Satin to the vaginal walls with a few drops on your finger.
This is one of those desert-island items for me personally. In the last decade, I could not begin to add up the bottles of the Coochy shave cream that I have gone through. It was one of the very first products I ever tried in the store, and I could not believe what I had always been missing out on. Years and years, starting in my teens, I used shaving gel, the one we get pink taxed on, and no matter how thick you layered it onto your legs, you most certainly still got razor bumps and burn, and don't even get me started on the bikini line. The knicks, cuts, and burning I endured over the years were brutal. Why is Coochy Cream any different than Skintimate? Coochy cream is like a conditioner for your hair, whereas most other shaving products are more of a soapy consistency. So while Skintimate and all the other shaving gel's out there are drying your skin, Coochy cream is doing the opposite and moisturizing your skin while shaving and preventing those knicks and razor bumps. In a pinch because your bottle of conditioner blew up in your suitcase like me? Coochy Cream works wonders as a conditioner for your hair as well. Thank me later.
Nippies Silicone Nipple Covers:
The Nippies are a product I have purchased for nearly every girlfriend of mine. Instead of those expensive adhesive nipple covers you spend a small fortune on at Victoria's Secret, Nippies actually work, and they are not just a one-and-done product. Nippies are hypoallergenic silicone adhesive nipple cover that you can wear repeatedly. With ultra-thin edges, so you don't detect them through clothing and a matte finish, these are a titty necessity. They are perfect for under white, cream-colored, or sheer clothing. A must-have for that strappy silk or satin outfit you don't want to wear a bra with but do not want to give everyone a view of your rock-hard nips. Wear them all day and into the night. Going dancing, no problem; get a little sweaty, your covered. Just take them off, wash them with lukewarm water and soap and let them air dry, and use them again and again. Pro Tip: Ensure you apply to clean, dry, and product-free skin so you don't ruin the adhesive.
Chakrub Crystal Yoni Eggs:
Now I know there are a lot of misconceptions surrounding Yoni Eggs, Kegal Balls, and Pelvic Floor exercisers and that "you only need them if your vaginal floor muscles are loose." While yes, that is one of the more common uses for Yoni eggs, that is not the only reason nor the only time you should use them. At age 31 and having two children, Yoni Eggs are something that I consider a must. But having children is not a requirement to be using Yoni eggs. I used them before having children, and I used them long after my children were born. Strengthening your pelvic floor muscles is a Vulva owner's exercise; childbirth or not, younger or older, maintaining your pelvic floor is essential. Not only for the sake of rebuilding your muscles after having children but also to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles as you age. Stronger Pelvic floor muscles lead to more enjoyable sex but also help with a myriad of health issues, such as helping to prevent painful intercourse, organ prolapse, and overall lack of support of the internal organs. Have you ever heard the expression "Don't make me laugh or ill pee" or "Whenever I sneeze, I pee a little" Not only are these very factual statements, but they are also very common. I love using the Chakrub Yoni eggs versus other Kegal muscle products because they are made of crystals which give me an element of knowing what I put in my body is coming from the earth. I also appreciate that Chakrubs is a company founded by a woman on a path to make sexually enhancing products for other Vulva owners.
Obviously, by 2023 we all have at the very least heard of "Air Pulsation Toys," and if you have not, please walk, no, run, to check one out. I have expressed my love, devotion, and appreciation for air pulsation toys so many times in so many ways because they really did "change the sex toy game for me." As someone who prefers clitoral stimulation and someone who is also quite sensitive, air pulsation toys changed everything for me. Did I have a handful of clitoral vibrators that I loved? Absolutely, but was I looking for more? Yes, absolutely. Air Pulsation toys came out, and I immediately sighed with a feeling of dear god, not another gimic that doesn't actually work. Upon getting so many customer requests for us to bring them in, I thought, "What the hell, let's try it out." Needless to say, I was blown away by the seemingly simple technology and how the orgasm had led to multiple orgasms very quickly. If you are a fan of oral sex, then an air pulsation toy might be right up your alley. Gentle enough not to over-stimulate the clitoris but sufficient to bring you multiple orgasms without the clitoris becoming so sensitive that it almost becomes painful. The Dame Aer is quiet, sleek, lightweight, and rechargeable, comes with a three-year warranty, and the kicker, the brand was founded by two fellow Vulva owners.
Walking into an Adult Toy store can be overwhelming, especially if you are a novice or, like so many others, have absolutely no idea what you're looking for or what you need. I hope this sheds some light on some great beginner items and some necessities.
