Beginner’s Guide to BDSM Toys

Posted by Tim Sizemore on

With all the great fun and sexy toys on the market today, which is great! It can also be quite daunting to know which item are worth spending money on. be sure its good enough quality before spending the money on a higher priced item, but you’re also exploring something novel that you might not know all the terms for.

In this article we want to show you many options for your kinky play, we will also include a few tip to help you find what your looking for, and also for what to avoid. we aim to help new people to this kind of play, not just seasoned kinky people.

There are great products from many companies. we hope to narrow that downby talkking about some of the best in best products.

Blindfolds and Hoods

Blindfolds and Hoods are used for various sensory play – when we cant see with our eyes, couples will often use other senses and are more focused , more sensitive to what is going on around them. Hoods come in various styles with any combination of mouth, nose, or sometimes the eyes are covered. Doms like the uses of hoods and blindfolds so it may keep some the ability to hide there identity, I always felt more comfortable when the submissive was blindfolded as they couldn’t see my face so I didn’t need to worry that I wasn’t “looking the part” of a dominant. Use a scarf to make a great makeshift blindfolds, just in case you’re curious about blindfolds but don't want to spend the money!

Bondage

Shop for soft sexy materials – leather, neoprene, pleather, nylon, silicone, or bondage tape. try not to get Handcuffs, even the furry ones! These can be uncomfortable amd can cause quite severe bruising. silk rope is a great option for softer play. Bondage tape is great to play with too because it sticks to itself but not to the skin, this is also great because it can be used not to stick to other surfaces. Bondage kits are great if you want to try multiple items at one time. – for instance, the The Everything Bondage Kit includes wrist and ankle cuffs, a faux leather flogger, a ball gag, a collar, leash, blindfold, flogger,  and rope. These kits are usually a much better pricing than if you bought these items individually. Also never leave the room with someone tied up. This is just for safer play.

Nipple Play

With so many nipple clamps of different styles and pressures. We always suggest using an adjustable style clamp the first time you use one of these products.

Micro-Pliered clamps have a screw used to adjust how much pressure they exert on your nipples. we think this is a great choice.

Tweezer  style clamps tend to have a smaller surface area, The pressure is more acute on these fun little clamps. Depending on the shape and size of the nipple, sometimes these style clamps can be a bit tough to keep on the nipple. these are adjustable, though not as much as micro-pliered clamps.

Clover/Butterfly clamps are probably the most advanced kind of nipple clamp. Unlike other kinds of clamps, when you pull on the end of a clover clamp it tightens on the nipple, exerting more pressure. Even when they aren’t being pulled, clover clamps are very powerful.

Weights and chains Adding tension to the nipple or a slight pull on the chain can turn up the intensity in seconds.

Nipple suckers Vaccums and pumps create other sensations that can be fun on the nipples. Our staff uses toys like the womanizer or Satisfyer also work well as nipple stimulators.

Leashes and Collars

When you pick a leash or collar, think about what you want to use this toy for. It can be used as a decorative, functional, humiliating, or for posture? If you have a collar with a o-ring on the front for you use a leash so you can control where you want them to go, however, some of the more decorative collars do not so make sure to keep an eye on that if it’s important to you.

Leashes can be used in conjunction to a collar to exhibit more control over the wearer by simply tugging on the leash like you would a dog. Pay attention to how long the leash is as this will impact what positions you can have your submissive in.

Gags

there are so many types of Gags you can buy – ball gag being the most common. An O Ring or Bars are less common – they all have there disadvantages and there advantages. Please don't leave anyone in a gag for too long. a sfae word or action is also a good idea in BDSM Play

Ball Gags

They can be solid or holes to help breathe through. The ones with holes are easier to breathe through while using but are typically made out of a hard plastic which caused more strain on your jaw and mouth than one with a silicone or rubber ball. Silicone balls have more give and so it’s easier to relax your jaw for a bit or bite into it in the middle of a scene. Please be aware if you use too big of a ball it can cause extra tension on the jaw which can be uncomfortable. Ball gags tend to pinch at the corners of your mouth after extended use.

Bar Gags

Better know as a bit gag, these have a bar that is usually made from of plastic, silicone, plastic. They don't pinch the mouth as much as a ball gag, are easier to speak around, and also restrict the breathing less than a ball gag.

O-Ring Gags

Usually made out of metal or silicone, this type of gag fits behind your teeth and does not restrict your breathing. They make it difficult to speak and pinch the corners of your mouth just like a ball gag does. You may be able to perform oral sex while wearing one of these gags. Keep in mind that the larger the ring’s diameter, the wider you will have to keep your mouth and thus the quicker your jaw will tire.

Impact Toys(Spankers)

When it comes to impact play, there are “thuddy” toys and “stingy”/“sharp” toys – think of the difference between getting punched versus slapped. Many people consider stingy toys (canes, crops, whips, some floggers) to hurt more than thuddy toys (paddles, some floggers), though individual preferences vary. Know your materials, some hurt much more than others.

Keep cleanliness in mind – it is just as important to clean an impact toy as it is to clean as it is a sex toy you may use internally. depending how you use these toys, sometime skin can be cut so cleanliness is very important

Size , material and force are all part of the equation to determine how a toy may feel. The thinner/narrower an object (cane, flogger falls, paddle, etc), the stingier the sensation; thicker toys, wider falls, and/or increasing the number of falls will all make the toy more thuddy.

Floggers are one of the more customizable options, good for everyone to those who don’t like pain at all, sting-enthusiasts, or those who prefer a nice thud. The below graphic will help you pick one that’s right for you!

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