With most people turning to Google to find answers for all of their sexual health related questions, it's no surprise that there's a vast number of questions out on the web. Whether you're looking for actual answers to the questions you didn't know to ask, or just want to see what other people are asking, let's get into the list of the internet's most Googled sex questions!
How to Get an Orgasm
Everyone has different needs, which means what everyone needs to reach orgasm is a bit different. We recommend My Imperfect Life's Orgasms 101 blog as a starting point for some ideas, but it's a good idea to keep in mind that about 80% of vulva owners need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. Focus on what feels good for you, not what you've seen in videos, and try to relax, as well.
Where is the G-Spot?
If you are among those who have been perusing the internet for answers, the answer is that the G-spot lies on the anterior wall (aka, belly side) of the vagina, about 5-8cm above the opening to the vagina. If you've seen that g-spot toys are always bent, then you already get the idea; stimulating the g-spot with one or two fingers, palm up, in a "come hither" motion is the best way to provide pleasure. Some people may find g-spot stimulation uncomfortable, so it's always best to keep in mind that what works for one person may not work for another.
How to Masturbate
In the same ballpark as the first question, many people either have preconceived notions of what masturbating looks/feels like from videos they've seen, or things they've heard. There is no right or wrong way to masturbate, but overall, the best thing to keep in mind is to relax and take your time. The secret to your best orgasm truly lies in knowing your body, and the best way to get in tune with it is with a bit of solo play, where there's no pressure or expectations from another person.
How Long Should Sex Last?
Along with another commonly Googled question, "How to last longer during sex," this is one of the most sought-after answers in the sexual health world. To many people's surprise, however... there is no set time that should be a goal. Sex should last for as long as both partners are aroused, and that number is different for everyone. If you're looking to last longer in bed, however, we recommend doing kegel or pelvic floor exercises, or trying to limit your thrusting and trying edging.
Why Do I Bleed After Sex?
Finding blood after intercourse is always cause for alarm, and it's no surprise that it's one of the most commonly asked questions. Of course, bleeding after sex can simply mean that there was some vaginal opening tearing, and adding more lubricant can help, but if you're still finding blood, or if sex is painful, we recommend communicating such with your partner, and consulting a doctor, not just Google.
How Do I Increase My Sex Drive?
Libidos are finicky, and everyone's different. Libido can be directly affected by sleeping habits, stress, and anxiety, and low libidos are more common than many expect. If you find that your lack of libido is causing a rift in your relationship, outside of communicating with your partner, the best thing to do is, like most other things in life, change your exercise patterns and eating habits. Consuming too much alcohol can also decrease your sex drive in the long run, as it's a depressant, and only temporarily increases your libido, and it's not a long-term solution.
Unfortunately, many of life's sex-related questions aren't one size fits all. Everyone is different in what they desire from sex, what works for them to achieve orgasm, and what experiences they're used to. Communicate with your partner, not just the internet, and find out what they like and what they don't to best help your relationship, and get the best sexual experiences that you desire.