My view on fetishism is that is comes from somewhere very deep within us. It is also something that can be very beautiful to share with our partners. I have quite a few healthy fetishes myself. I simply adore everything about leather, I am overwhelmingly attracted to submissives and I love men dressed in women’s lingerie to name a few. I am not merely comfortable with these fetishes, I feel blessed to have them. Different fetishes have arisen and set within me throughout my journey, I have discovered new ones and said goodbye to old ones, as different relationships, both personal and professional, have been formed, evolved and concluded.

The Fun of Fetishes

Fetishes can play an important role in an individual’s journey into kink. Exploring your fetishes can vastly enhance your enjoyment of kinky play. It is therefore worth giving them some thought to see whether you or your partner have any of your own. This may be as simple as “really” liking certain fabric or “really” wanting to being spanked. Your fetishes will serve to provide your playmate with additional tools to help enrich your kinky experiences together.

Now the most obvious fetish might be a man loving the look of various high heels on a woman, but have you considered that a woman may also get super excited by simply seeing a sexy surfer guy in flip flops? The point being that it is important to try to look at any given fetish from different angles.

Fetishes can therefore be more varied and less obvious than you think. Take yourself outside of what you think of as typical fetishes and really work out the nuances of things that really get you excited. Perhaps simply watching your partner eat and play strawberries and cream might do the trick.

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