Should you bring a sex toy on the first date?
On a first date? Maybe Not. But it is a great way to send a message that you are not your boring proper date. In a world where a swipe right leads to a sexual encounter, Why not bring a toy. Its already established that sex is on the table. For the man it takes a lot of pressure off when you can whip out a sex toy that makes her orgasm over and over. I would think she would like that too. Not all toys are meant to replace the man. Smaller sex toys can be used to kick things up a notch.
Should it be for him or her?
That's a good question. Men can be quite sensitive if they think they are not enough. We would always suggest a small bullet, something that isn't intimidating to the man. If she brings the sex toy then she should suggest she use it on him first. A great idea is to use on his testicles while she does oral. If it is his first time? It might just turn in to a play toy advocate without any resistance. Then when she request the toy for her, he shouldn't have any objections.
How about a Love Ring?
One sex toy that is actually be fun for both the man and the women are Love Rings or Vibrating cock rings. These vibrators are worn by the man but enjoyed by both. These work particularly well when the girl is on top riding the man. These rings come in many shapes and sizes, and the rechargeable love rings can be quite powerful. Another added benefit is when worn by the male they can excite but also with prolonged use can actually desensitize the man just enough, some helping with longer lasting sex. who doesn't want better sex?
Maybe some light Bondage?
If vibrators are not her or his thing then we suggest maybe bringing some light bondage. A blindfold and some cuffs can really make things more interesting without being too much too soon. Blindfolds can heighten the senses and make even the simplest of sex acts better than you could imagine. For some the excitement of being controlled can be a sex act all to itself. Just put a blindfold on him or her and do oral when either person doesn't know it is happening. That's what is so fun about light bondage. Just use your imagination.
Whether its sex toys or light bondage? We would encourage everyone to experiment and take some chances in the bedroom. I mean, you only live once and life is too short not to live it to the fullest. So before you go out on your next Tinder date or with someone you already know. Take a little trip to your local adult store and shop together. It's a whole new world out there. You won't regret it.
Written by Tim Sizemore
Owner, Operator and Sex Educator at Intimates Boutique
- Tim Sizemore